Ask Jewell

Q.  I am leaving from the not enough land to be excited for the promise land. However, when you have kids involved it brings additional hurt, when your spouse is black-slidden to the entire situation. As the sanctified wife, you feel so stretched. Then what?

A. I understand.  I was the sanctified wife and my husband had turned his back on God.  I must say that I got weary in well doing - wondering when and if he was going to change. However, when I stopped focusing on what my husband was and was not doing to my satisfaction, and I just began to really be the wife God has called me to be, Lewis came around. The bible clearly gives instruction to a wife if her husband is not obeying the word, she can win him over by her conversation. [Note: this is not by what she says but what she does. That word conversation in the Greek means ‘behavior’(1^st Peter 3:1)]

I am happy that you can see the Promised Land.  You can have a ‘happily ever after’ but it requires you to live by faith.  Keep believing, keep obeying the word and God will do His part. His word cannot come back void (Isaiah 55:11).  I’ve learned that if we can spend more of our time concentrating on our own imperfections and less on our spouses, we can actually mature in Christ.  We then become better Christians which in turn will help us to be a better wife, mother etc.  We so easily look at others but we don’t look at ourselves to see the little changes we can make in our relationships.  Read Matthew 7:3-5.