Ask Jewell

Q. I was in an abusive marriage both mental, physical & spiritually.  I left him over 10 years ago and have been divorced for over 7 years. I have been actively seeking God for over 6 years & walking as best as I can as God would have me for over 4 ½ years. I do want to get married again. How do I wait joyfully during this time of singleness? (I can’t stand it!)

A. I would first say to you don’t be weary in well doing as you wait on God to bring you the mate that you are believing Him for. There are so many wonderful things you can do while you wait on God. Your life should not stop because of your desire to be married.  You should be enjoying every day of your journey as a single person.  Remember the scripture that says, “An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit.” This is your time to spend with God, let him be your Prince. Let him prepare you for marriage.  So often we PRAY for the man but we don’t PREPARE for the man.  Read books such as Lord, I’m Ready to Be a Wife by Christine Pembleton and Marriage 101: Building a Life Together by Faith to help you prepare.

In your time of waiting, get involved in ministry work.  There is ample help needed by any ministry that is preaching the gospel and desiring to change lives.  You can be a part of making a difference in someone else’s life. Find a hobby or take a class of something that you always wanted to learn.  Who knows, maybe the mate that you desire could be on the other side of these new adventures.  Finally, join single ministries and connect with like-minded people – Christians who are saved, sanctified and living for God.  I’ve heard of a social group called Christian Hang Suite, check them out.