Ask Jewell

Q. I’ve had 2 very bad marriages and even though God has said He wants me to be married, I am extremely fearful of allowing marriage in my life. Please help me!

A. It sounds like there is still some healing that you need to continue doing from the past.  Invite God into your healing process. Ask Him to help you move beyond the former things of your past. Just like I suggested in question #7, just like medicine, take daily the word of God by reading, meditating, and speaking it in the areas that you are having an issue in.  In this case, it would be fear.  Remember, God has not given you the spirit of fear - but of power, love and a sound mind.  I would also caution you to allow yourself to be completely healed from your past hurts before jumping into another relationship. I’m sure if you were honest, there are some very similar patterns from both failed relationships that you don’t want to repeat.  Don’t go through this process alone.  Seek a prayer partner, coach, or church clergy to help you work through fears in this area.