Ask Jewell

Q. My husband does not satisfy me sexually. He does not cuddle, hug to sleep, have sex with me regularly.We've been married for eight years now!we are yet to have the first baby and i'm turning 38 this year. Each time i bring up the topic, it leads to an arguement. Sometimes i make the move,and we have sex but after, he makes fun of me,therefore i'm not always motivated to suggest anything to him.

A. I'm not quite sure what your question is but if you want to have a more desirable sex life with your husband, ask him what he wants. Honey, what turns you on? And then do it! What do I do that is so funny? And then stop doing it! People seem to think they know what their spouses want but they don't know. My husband and I tell each other all the time because the same thing he did yesterday may not be the same thing I desire today. Don't be afraid to ask the question but make sure it is at an appropriate time.